[卡耐基] 人性的弱点

 读后感想总结，每章的理论概括，以及生活中可以实践的方法及方向

序章 - 如何将本书效益最大化：

  • 提高社交能力的强烈决心以及学习欲望
  • 仔细阅读每章 （两遍）
  • 阅读过程中思考如何实践
  • 定期重新温习
  • 有机会就去实践
  • 自我检讨
  • 记录实践过程

第一篇 - 为人处世的基本技巧

如欲采蜜，勿毁蜂房 （不指责）

  • 人的天性不会自责，只会责备别人
  • 实验表示鼓励比斥责有效
  • 批评不会改变已犯错的事实
  • “伟人之所以伟大，就是看他如何对待一个卑微的人”
  • 【实践】生活中不要批评，指责，抱怨别人

给人真诚的赞赏

  • 人类基本欲望之一：“显要感”，最深层本性渴望他人重视
  • 每个人获得显要感的手段不同，比如说：漂亮衣服，公开做慈善 etc.
  • 真诚的赞扬 - 职场/社交
  • 和阿谀(e yu)奉承不一样，来自内心的赞赏
  • 【实践】认真思考/接受对方的优点，然后再合适地表达出来
  • 【实践】赞美时注意细节，不要太笼统，赞美的话表达地长一点比较好

影响他人的方法















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